• Riskable@programming.dev
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    10 months ago

    As you get older the existential dread of not getting things done fades. I’m fact, I’m now proud that I blew off putting things away for so long that I’ve moved five times and I still have stuff from those boxes I packed during the first move still in the same boxes 👍

    Obviously those things will come with me to the next home. I can’t just throw away old cables! They don’t go bad! Some day I’m going to be the hero that still has the proprietary cable that connects a specific model year, early 90s vintage mini video camera to RCA and composite connectors!

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      10 months ago

      Some day I’m going to be the hero that still has the proprietary cable that connects a specific model year, early 90s vintage mini video camera to RCA and composite connectors!

      If you’re me someone will find the Grail cable at the estate sale, because no one I know needs it and also I don’t talk to them anyway.

    • EatYouWell@lemmy.world
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      10 months ago

      I actually had to find that cable this year because my mom wanted to digitize old home movies.

      Definitely a justification to keep the rest.

  • xpinchx@lemmy.world
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    10 months ago

    Hey ADHD friends, I recommend the self help book Atomic Habits. I’m not perfect and neither is the book, but I’m make genuine progress on a lot of long term goals using some things I learned in there. It’s not specifically for ADHD but it helped me get over the lack of apparent progress when I apply myself because I document what I’m doing to work towards them.

    I’m still a fucking disaster tho.

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      10 months ago

      You might, but keep in mind that the symptoms of adhd are things that everyone experiences. It turns into a disorder when you can’t control it and it is so frequent that it starts negatively impacting your life.

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        10 months ago

        Also too many mistake anxiety for adhd. My focus is so much better when my anxiety is under control. If you take away the anxiety and you become more dysfunctional then you might have adhd but that’s something a psychiatrist will determine, not you, not your therapist.

  • Evil_Shrubbery@lemm.ee
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    10 months ago

    aADHD (advanced ADHD, or v2) is when you grow old and the nervous tax for actively managing it just becomes too much.

    I haven’t made a pact in a decade, bcs I know better now, I won’t be able to enforce it. Maybe a non-obligatory, gentle plea, like to perhaps at some point during next few years hang that mirror in the hallway that I pass several times a day & the drill and screw (and even a measured out mark on the wall) are already set there, just waiting for me to pick it up & do the 2 minute thing.

    At some magical moment I will have to do it, most probably amid some other fairly important task or when already late to go somewhere.

    What I’m saying is I didn’t advanceADHD, just gave up, living a simple random life, relaxed, unbothered (except to keep in mind not to step in the drill).

  • NightAuthor@lemmy.world
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    10 months ago

    I wonder how it is that people seem to have tons of hyper focus, aka flow state. I’ve had that before, but it’s more of a once a week kind of thing. And when I’m in a flow state, something as simple as responding to my wife asking “what are you doing?” absolutely destroys it.