And this is the Hexbear reply thread. Please be very wary of the extremism and bigotry and know that they are largely defederated

  • Sciaphobia@lemm.ee
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    1 month ago

    Overall though they seem connected: not wanting to defederate from either lemmy.ml with its constant calls for guillotines (I mean… not that I don’t understand the reason for such:-) or from hexbear.net, mainstream users are being turned away.

    If I hadn’t found a way to block Hexbear I’d have been gone. It took me about 2 weeks to realize the users that were the most insufferable to me were largely all from there, and I was a hair from quitting Lemmy because of it. So, for me at least you have it exactly right.

    • OpenStars@discuss.online
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      1 month ago

      Same - and also Lemmygrad.ml, both of which I replied to someone and then had to endure WEEKS and WEEKS (each) of replies of a ridiculous nature. Like who would send someone tens and tens and tens of replies, WEEKS later, who is acting in good faith? Obviously that is a “dunking”, done for their emotional benefit, rather than an attempt to actually change my mind. Well they did manage to change my mind though… about them.:-)

      And that started me thinking that if Lemmy was going to be just exactly like Reddit, then I wanted no part of it… and I too came within a hairsbreadth of quitting it, before I realized that I could just block the worst of it and then the rest of the content here is actually pretty great.

      So now I don’t blame new people who don’t know that - how would/could they? If we allow each new person to be hazed like that as they enter, then we have no basis for complaining later on when nobody wants to come back.