I want to be respectful but if they say they don’t care what pronouns I use for them, that feels like it puts the decision on me to choose what to call them and I guess I would probably default to “they” because choosing a gender for them feels weird… am I wrong?
As someone who doesn’t care what pronouns you use, use whatever feels natural for you to use. My lack of care is just that. It’s not some 4d chess to push the effort onto you. I’m fine with whatever, so refer to me however feels right to you.