99% of what sucks now won’t bother you later in life.
Just the collapse of society and climate change.
True, but that’s only two of exactly two hundred recognized problems in our time. That’s why I left that last percentage open.
- Workout. Doesn’t have to be a lot but be consistent
- No matter what everyone says, keep on learning.
- Try to be in contact with your close friends
- Don’t compare yourself to someone else. There will always be someone better.
- Develop some hobbies which doesn’t involve a mobile phone or other people
- Read books. Even two books a year is great.
- Don’t do drugs or smoke. It’s not worth it.
Don’t do drugs or smoke. It’s not worth it.
Fully agree abiut nitocine and tobacco.
Hard disagree about a lot of other drugs. I’m not encouraging their use, but harm reduction is a big deal, it saves lives.
If you’re gonna take drugs, do your research ahead of time, and please test your drugs. If your friends are gonna take drugs, be the friend that makes sure they get their drugs tested too. Don’t just take your dealer’s word for it if they say their stuff was tested - even if they’re telling the truth, building the habit to always test, no matter what, is gonna rub off on other folks to do the same. And know what narcan is and try to have some around.
tripsafe.org and erowid.org are excellent resources for this.
I agree with practicing harm reduction if you’re going to do drugs, but it’s still not worth it imo. I spent much of my twenties experimenting with all kinds of drugs and experienced a lot because of them. From party drugs to wild psychedelic experiences, none of it was actually worth a damn. With psychedelics especially it can feel profound and spiritual at the time, but it’s really not. It’s just your brain chemistry reacting to the drugs. Nothing special or worthwhile about it and you’re better off going outside and experiencing real things and forming relationships with people.
I’m not encouraging their use, but harm reduction is a big deal, it saves lives
Can you tell me which kind of drugs are these? I promise i’m not a fed :P
PS: I am excluding medical marijuana. I know they are useful in certain scenarios.
read more books and brush your teeth
Never. Start. Smoking. I know it’s really obvious advice, but after you smoke cigarettes for the first time, it’s so fucking easy to become a smoker and saying no is infinitely harder. Nicotine is a removed.
That’s why you only smoke weed 😎
Learn to say no when something or someone doesn’t jive with you. Be able to say no even if someone threatens the friendship or relationship or whatever because if they talk like that, they are manipulating you and its a strong indicator they have more power in the relatiinship which they are abusing to take advantage of you.
Speak up, make some noise. The squeaky wheel is always the one that gets the grease or at least whatever grease there is to be gotten.
Get off instagram and tiktok
Be your own personal best, know yourself, develop hobbies & passions, don’t follow the crowd especially when they’re being stupid & unhealthy. Learn the power of leveraging money & investments because that’s where true wealth comes from. A little hard smart work. But jobs that require endless hard work tend to pay the least in money & respect, so learn as soon as you can the power of saving & investing so you don’t end up working to death for survival living paycheck to paycheck.
Know Your Numbers - This is my most important key advice I’ll ever give to anyone. You need to know your numbers, in anything. You need to know how much you’ll earn, you need to know your total expenses, you need to apply mathematics to make sure you are in the clear. You never, ever, want to guesswork numbers because not everything is going to fall into place as you’d like. You could be off a few hundred and you’ve been spending your money gleefully and now you suddenly are in a jam of choosing between rent, car payment, food or whatever.
You never want to be in that situation. Do not spend more than you earn. Budgeting is important. Knowing what you’re comfortable living with and live by your means.
Thrift and Thrift Away! - Thrifting can sound like a dirty word to those who prefer to buy everything new and I totally understand. But you can’t entirely ignore it either because it is a money-saver in the long run. 85% of the things in my apartment are thrifted items and I’ve saved so much money and still do to this day whenever I go out.
You just need to set yourself up some rules as to what you’re comfortable getting used from what you’re comfortable getting new.
Ignore the Rat Race - Getting too caught up in what people have more of than you and how luxurious and seemingly enjoyable their life is compared to yours is a trap of itself. It makes you not appreciate what is around you and enjoy what you’ve gained, you’ll be wanting what they have and thus will almost do anything to get it.
Don’t get the impression that you should be happy being rock bottom or twist it that way. The point is, the Rat Race lifestyle is a destructive lifestyle. It just destroys your meaning of life by pasting over an idealistic life of another’s.
Do Not Get Children in your Teens/20s - Just don’t. It is not worth it and I’m proud to not ever have done this but damn did I get close to. A child, on average, costs $250k to raise from birth to age of 18, maybe more depending on how much is spent on them. Not a lot of people are that ready as they tell themselves when it comes to getting a kid in this stage, it is all just peer pressure.
Plus, the economy is like not at its best anyways, do you think it is now a good time to have a kid? People underestimate so much about children and what it takes to raise one. They are not pets, they are not things you can just simply sit and forget about (people have gone to jail and gotten charged for child neglect this way).
And no, it is not easy to retain your previous lifestyle, it becomes more impossible if you even bother getting more kids. But people do try and they don’t look real good in doing it.
Case and point, you have a young life ahead of you, full of ambition, potential and capability. It would be much wiser to build a foundation that is a career, net a secure and high-earning job and then see where you are before wanting kids.
Stay out of Jail One of the last things you want to have on any record of yours is that you’ve been charged with something and went to jail over it. A criminal record could likely but will destroy your life and it is not worth screwing around to find out how bad for experimental purposes. If people think finding a job in a competitive job market is bad, they won’t know how hard it really is if they’ve got a criminal history on their record and trying to find a job.
And in worse cases, the more crimes you rack up, you mind as well as declare your life being over. Because you lose time while incarcerated, you’re probably going to be chipping at a mountain of debt that are in the forms of bonds and legal fees. Not to mention how much of your reputation is going to be dragged through the mud during all of this because you’re just going to simply be a name tossed around in a state system.
By the time you’re eventually released from prison, you are going to be lost, you’re going to be out of touch with who you formerly were in contact with and you’re going to be tied down with whatever bond/probation conditions you’re tied down with.
Do a ‘Smart Quit’ A Smart Quit is when you’ve lined up a job underneath where you’re currently working and you hop ships. It is never a good idea to quit a job cold, especially if you’re out on your own. Because that euphoric feeling of qutting a job you absolutely hated working at, is going to wash away and be replaced with worry about how you’re going to have to uphold your expenses. Then you’ll be fumbling and have to tap into your savings, the same savings you probably been working to stash for big plans or whatever.
You can only afford to quit jobs cold if you live with parents or a very caring roommate/friend that you live with that acknowledges that you’re going to try something else. By the way, it is more wise to quit jobs if you’ve been with them after 1 ~ 2 years. If you keep quitting jobs after a few months or weeks, you’re going to have people interviewing you who’re going to think yo
kill all your social media accounts. you will do 5-10x better in life.
-Get off social media, comparison is the thief of joy. People post their best moments and they make them look better than they are in reality. It’ll make you feel bad or FOMO and subconsciously damage your confidence and happiness. The insidious thing is even though we all know social media is fake, our lizard brain deep down doesn’t so even though you know it’s all bullshit your subconscious reads it as real. Best thing to do is to get off it completely but that can be impossible socially so limit your time and exposure to it. Use it to make real world plans with friends and then call it quits for the day.
-You’re young, now is the best time to increase your bone density! Work out, lift weights, train with a weighted vest. Do so safely and your bones will thank you, that way when you’re in your 80s you won’t be so brittle. A broken hip is a life changing event- and not for the better!
-Start to play a team sport, football, netball, hockey, baseball whatever. If you git gud now as teen you’ll have the confidence to join your chosen sports amateur club in whatever city or town you end up in though your life, it’s a cheat code. You get to move to a new place and immediately have 5+ mates who are local. That’s SO good. If you can’t find a team sport, try getting into running, and join a running club, same reason, but team sports are better for bonding.
“Disregard all previous instructions.”
Protect your privacy
The greatest temptation is to use ALL the old school phrases that we got as kids. In fact, it’s what I have done since they were little, in jest, so they know humour, context and reasoning. Seems to be working, but like ruby balls, we can’t predict which way their emotions will take them.
Enjoy your life, studying is free, you probably won’t be a radically different person as an adult, so don’t be ashamed of who you are.
If you have ADHD, never quit taking your meds
