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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ImportantActuator562 on 2023-07-06 03:04:17+00:00.

Now as the title reads, I am transgender (M23) and I live in a house with 4 other guys, my partner (M24), my partner’s brother (M22) and two of his friends (M21 and M22). I get along well with all my roommates, we can kick back and relax after all of our days wrap up and chat for a bit before going off to do our own thing. I share a bathroom with my partner, the other three share one as well. We mostly did this because my boyfriend is particular about bathrooms and he knows I’m not messy. But, I keep my T under our sink and do my shots when needed.

One of my roommates went looking for something in our bathroom and ran into the T. He sat me and my boyfriend down for a talk after texting us about something he found that concerned him, and honestly I figured this was gonna happen eventually. But he asked my boyfriend if he was juicing (my boyfriend works out regularly and is decently built), and when my boyfriend said no he asked me the same question. I was honest with him, telling him it was mine and that it was because I was trans. He was honestly taken aback by this and asked why I never told him, saying how it felt like it was something I should be telling the people I live with.

I was once again blunt and told him I don’t have to tell anyone who isn’t my sexually partner and who isn’t a doctor, because it’s not their business. He seemed rather offended by this, and argued I should have told him so he didn’t assume my boyfriend was taking a controlled substance as a steroid. In turn, I told him he shouldn’t have been going through our things and should ask next time before doing so. This quickly ended the conversation, but he said I was being a “smartass”.

He hasn’t told anyone else we live with to my knowledge, but my boyfriend is 100% on my side and is pretty pissed about him going through our stuff. But I feel a little bad, so, AITA?