one reason is literally fear, the side that they’re fighting against literally has all the guns and the psychopaths.

taking the article into more consideration i think you are right, this comment was pushed to the bottom so i guess by the time i got there it had slipped my mind what exactly the article said haha. though i do think it comes from a place of ignorance rather than malice. i personally might have made the same mistake which is why i attempted to give them the benefit of the doubt. prior to conversing with you i wasn’t very well informed on the etiquette. i would have assumed “they/them” was just the safest route to avoid offending anyone regardless of whether or not i knew.

did they edit their comment? or is it wrong to call someone who prefers she/her by they/them? i feel like they/them is the neutral version so if you prefer either he/him or she/her then they/them also applies, no? sorry if i’m being ignorant here.

edit: i guess people do distinguish they/them as a way to identify non-binary people, and so using they/them on a person who specifically requests she/her can be offensive if you have been informed that they have a preference. but i don’t see how using they/them to describe a person you don’t know anything about other than that they are transgender is offensive when there are so many possibilities for preferences. as a cis man i don’t feel offended being refered to as they/them and i think it would only be respectful to assume that someone who transitions ftm would also be comfortable with that, unless otherwise stated. i’m not a woman so i obviously can’t say for certain but i’d imagine i would also be okay with she/them, and therefore a mtf transgender would also be okay by default. ‘by default’ in this case meaning the circumstance in which you haven’t been explicitly informed of their preferences. i guess that’s just my respect compass- which very well might be wrong from some people’s point of view but i think it’s obvious that it doesn’t come from a negative place, which is why i don’t think the original comment in necessarily trying to disrespect her.

so he’s a fucking idiot is your excuse?