This is the way

This is something that has always interested me but I’ve never tried. Any recommendations on a set of picks to start with?

If that’s for a whole pie that’s dirt cheap. If that’s for a slice then that’s some expensive pie.

Some still are. Bigelow I think.

But loose leaf tea is much better quality anyway and avoids the issue of what’s in the bag entirely. They also have ceramic filters so you can completely avoid having plastic in contact with hot water

Inspiring

It’s like credit card churning but for brain chemicals

Finish your current project

“What project?” I say, as I start a third project after getting bored with the second project and completely forgetting that the first project ever existed.

That sounds like a fun way to do it!

WRONG!

I write the tasks in my little notebook and then I don’t have to think about it until later.

DISCLAIMER: This only works if you actually review the notebook periodically, as I have recently discovered.

I’m not even kidding - I started doing the bullet journal method (this video) recently and it is not an understatement to say it changed my life. I’m just talking the basic method in the video - I always thought bullet journaling was all of the pretty spreads and fancy lettering but that’s not at all what it is about. It was developed by a guy with ADHD to help himself manage his own brain in school and work.

Knowing that if I write something down I have a process to evaluate it later means I really can stop stressing about it. And then at the end of the day / week / month I can look over the tasks, evaluate if they are actually important, and put them where they need to go.

Knowing that I have those periods of reflection each week / month to migrate and organize tasks means I don’t stress about a super long list of tasks either. Before I always felt like I had to do a task ASAP or else I would forget it and it wouldn’t get done for months (if ever). Now I just don’t worry about that.

It has helped me also a LOT with planning a reasonable amount of things to do for the day. Yes, these 10 things NEED to be done, but they don’t NEED to be done TODAY - I’ll put them in my weekly or monthly when I am reviewing unfinished tasks for the day. Then when I start a new day, I will review the weekly, monthly, and previous day and pick a couple unfinished things that are important and put them on my daily list.

Having that structure and writing things multiple times also helps me with executive function. It makes everything seem much more achievable.

TL;DR - Bullet Journal Method was made by an ADHD brain, and I recommend it. 10/10. Just watch this short video and also maybe check out some of the other videos and podcast that Ryder Carroll has done

Similar situation here. I was raised home schooled for all of my education. Got a GED, good score on the ACT, got a 4.0 in the community college where I got an associates degree. The problem is parents who homeschool because they don’t want their kids to turn “woke” or be “converted” by exposure to the fact that non-straight, non-cis people exist. A lot of the time, the emphasis is only on indoctrination, and there is little or no actual education involved.

I have been to homeschool conferences - there are some good resources there, and a LOT of really pretty awful stuff like this article mentioned. People like the author are so incredibly impactful, even if they don’t realize it. They may never see results but those seeds matter. Even if the parents don’t get it, the kids will.

At a conference last year, there was a speaker talking about parenting difficult children (Kirk Martin with Celebrate Calm). He was presenting very much a solid gentle parenting approach (though he didn’t call it that) that is very contrary to the culture of a lot of homeschool groups. He spent a lot of time unpacking his experiences as someone who grew up with really strict physical discipline, the impact it had on him, his experience being a parent - kind of leading people on a journey from where they might be to where they should be as parents.

He also spent a bit of his talk on how the Bible doesn’t teach us to raise our kids to fight in a culture war and just really pretty clearly calling out a lot of the toxic far right christian-nationalist talking points. Sure he made a lot of people uncomfortable, but those thoughts will stick with them.

After his talk he was spent over an hour talking with people outside of the conference room answering questions. His next talk was packed as well.

Anyway, all that to say - I know it can take a lot out of someone to deal with people in those environments, but it is absolutely impactful and so desperately needed.

A lot of these are things everyone does sometimes. If it’s something that is happening multiple times a week, or multiple times a day, then it might be worth taking to your Dr and filing out the test.

Full time student + full time work is a LOT to handle, even without ADHD.

No, it’s not excuses, it’s just reality. It’s hard. Does that mean people shouldn’t try to do better and make things better? Of course not. Being better and doing better is hard, and we should do it anyway. That kind of personal growth is central to the human experience, or it ought to be.

The thing is, just because people aren’t doing better in the area that you understand and care about doesn’t mean that they aren’t in other areas that you may not know about.

For example, someone who is stressed out and overburdened with work may be using all of their available energy to be a better parent and make sure that their child is raised in a healthy and emotionally stable home. If that doesn’t leave room for people to support FOSS and privacy friendly browsers that’s ok.

Just be the best human you can be every day and don’t beat yourself (or others) up for not being perfect.

It’s not really the time. It’s more about the mental effort it takes to find out what to switch to.

Sure, it’s easy to install Firefox or sign up for Lemmy once you know that it’s there, but most people just have a sense that things suck with no idea of what they can do to fix it.

Finding out what to do to have a better experience takes a non-trivial amount of mental energy that scrolling reddit and instagram do not require.

The constant hustle, multiple jobs, or jobs with a high mental load, rising prices and stagnant wages all work together to create a lot of decision fatigue and stress. It often takes something major to get people out of that and get them active at changing things.

Probably my favorite RPG - Such a rich environment and a totally unnecessary amount of lore and background information in all of the included books and dialogue. Really set me up to be severely unfulfilled by everything else Bethesda made after that point.

Audiobooks are fantastic for me while riding a bike or walking on a treadmill - something to physically do and something to mentally do.

I can’t just sit and listen to them though.

EDIT: Oh and repetitive tasks - I got back into audiobooks when I started making chainmail again. Which reminds me… I haven’t finished that thing I started a year ago…

You download them directly from thr Humble bundle website. They appear to be DRM free.

They are all available in PDF but only some are available in all formats, and the rest are either only PDF and MOBI or PDF and ePUB, if that matters to you

That is my biggest gripe with modern windows. The OS itself is pretty decent, but WHY am I paying at minimum $100 and seeing ads all over the start menu? Even with a vanilla MS sourced USB there are so many bloat apps. It didn’t used to be that way.

I set up a PC for recording in a sound system and got a fresh install of Windows 11 on a custom PC and it was still super bloated with garbage games and a video editor that watermarks footage instead of the perfectly functional basic software they used to have.

I am in the process of repairing and setting up an old macbook with Linux since it stopped getting Apple updates. When I get a new laptop I will likely go with Linux there as well.

I love connect. I used sync for a bit and it’s great too but I fully switched to connect now

Yeah, just manually

I don’t know, I’d have to check the database. I add to it every once in a while so it keeps growing. I think I started with around 20 or so