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Cake day: July 10th, 2023

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  • I suppose if you’re not trying to let people know that their views are not acceptable then you’re part of the problem.

    Yes, but how are you approaching this discussion?

    I think there are different ways to handle this. On one hand you can be hostile and “give them what they deserve”. On the other hand you can engage in friendly arguments.

    This is a story about how someone from the Westboro Baptist Church left because of the way that people engaged with her. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bVV2Zk88beY

    What’s worth noting from this story, people that were hostile in their interactions with her only served to entrench her further in her ideals.

    What caused her to change her mind were the people that had “friendly arguments” and made an effort to learn where she was coming from.

    She listed out 4 key points when engaging in difficult conversations. I extracted/paraphrased some of what she said below:

    1. Don’t assume bad intent (assume good or neutral intent instead) - Assuming ill motive almost instantly cuts you off from truly understanding why someone does and believes as they do. We forget that they’re a human being with a lifetime of experience that shaped their mind and we get stuck on that first wave of anger and the conversation has a very hard time ever moving beyond it.

    2. Ask Questions - Asking questions helps us map the disconnect. We can’t present effective arguments if we don’t understand where the other side is coming from.

    3. Stay calm - She though that “[her] rightness justified [her] rudeness”. When things get too hostile during a conversation, tell a joke, recommend a book, change the subject, or excuse yourself from the conversation. The discussion isn’t over, but pause it for a time to let tensions dissapate.

    4. Make the argument - One side effect of having strong beliefs is that we sometimes assume that the value of our position is, or should be, obvious and self-evident. That we shouldn’t have to defend our positions because they’re so clearly right and good. If it were that simple, we would all see things the same way.

    You can’t expect others to spontaneously change their minds. If we want change, we have to make the case for it.


  • The link from my quote includes a breakdown of the different types of bars and how much was found in each, so I would compare the kind of chocolate you usually eat, the safest choices were:

    Edit 2: Note this particular study was done on dark chocolate bars. Milk chocolate bars would be more diluted.

    • Mast - Organic Dark Chocolate\80% Cocoa
    • Taza Chocolate - Organic Deliciously Dark Chocolate\70% Cacao
    • Ghirardelli - Intense Dark Chocolate\86% Cacao
    • Ghirardelli - Intense Dark Chocolate Twilight Delight\72% Cacao
    • Valrhona - Abinao Dark Chocolate\85% Cacao

    Even those contained small levels of both, so eating an entire bar all at once is probably not a good idea.

    Also there are other foods that can have it:

    It can be found in many other foods—such as sweet potatoes, spinach, and carrots—and small amounts from multiple sources can add up to dangerous levels. That’s why it’s important to limit exposure when you can.

    https://www.consumerreports.org/health/food-safety/lead-and-cadmium-in-dark-chocolate-a8480295550/

    Edit: comma after ‘eat’





  • Vomitting immediately after pushing your body to its limit is fairly normal.

    Someone correct me if I’m wrong, I believe the reason is because your body redirects blood/energy to the most important parts when your body is under strain.

    Edit: Please see the correction provided by EpicFailGuy below.

    So, if there’s too much food in your stomache and you’re pushing your body to its absolute limit, the stomache becomes less important as to whether it needs to continue working well. Blood is directed away from the stomache and you will vomit.

    This is, at least, what happens when someone goes through shock, I’m assuming something similar is at play when pushing your body to its limit.

    If swimmers end up sick or contracting some diseases, that’s when we should worry. But we won’t see those effects as immediately as the end of a race.