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Cake day: July 17th, 2023

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  • As a general rule for dating apps, I’ve found for me, the best strategy for getting matches that turn into dates does not involve paying them. I’m not super attractive so it doesn’t just happen on it’s own, but if I leave the app alone for a few weeks/months, in an effort to drive your activity up, they will push your account to get you more matches. It works on me. I’ll use the app for a day or 2, get a bunch of matches and some dates out of it, then they dry up and I stop using it again. Rinse and repeat. It’s worked pretty consistently for a while now for me. But you have to stay completely off of it. Don’t even open it to clear notifications or boredom scroll. When they say your account is about to become inactive, don’t believe them. It’ll come around and you’ll get some notifications.

    I don’t know 100% that that’s what’s going on, but it’s the thing that makes the most sense when using it gets me nothing but when I ignore the app, eventually I’ll just get 2-5 matches in a single day out of nowhere.



  • Milk isn’t any healthier than any other drink. It’s calcium content was considered it’s primary benefit until a long term study was done that found we don’t actually absorb calcium from milk that efficiently (like, 30-ish%). Calcium absorption in plants is much better, which makes sense since humans have been eating beans, nuts, and leafy greens far longer than dairy milk. We’re built better for that. I’m sure populations have adapted more, somewhat, but there are still many places where the lactose intolerance is the norm and they’re not all collapsing from brittle bones. The fat in milk is probably the healthiest part. You’d have to check the particular plant, but it even seems like plant-based milks might be better for all the health benefits than dairy. In general, low to moderate coffee consumption provides more health benefits than milk. You mostly just have to worry about caffeine levels.





  • Think about “How to feed that many people/animals”, and how to get rid of the wastes, and you’ve done on a long-way in your castle design. It’s also more interesting because suddenly, you don’t have a linear dungeon with a door and an exit, but tons of different way to access it.

    I feel like I remember Matt Mercer saying something similar to this when talking about creating worlds, and then Brandon Sanderson said the same thing about his books, so I watched a few of his lectures to help with my world building.

    A lot of what he does to make his worlds feel alive and real and expansive comes from putting himself in that world and thinking about what it would need to actually operate, then answer those questions with what’s available in that world. How do they feed themselves? Get water? Dispose of waste? Settle disputes? Travel when it’s too far to walk? Then you expand on those to answer what those things need.

    They ride horses? Gonna need a stable and grooms and tack. Where do the grooms live? Who’s their boss and where does he go when not bossing around the grooms? Where does the tack come from? Made in house, gonna need a leatherworker and their own shop and place to live. Horses are also gonna need hay and to store it. Now you’ve got a farm and storage. A farm? Gonna need farmers. Where do they live? OP mentioned a wizard, so they have magic. Would they have used magic to make any of these jobs better/easier? Maybe the Wizard is upset about having to use his gifts to assist with lowly jobs and there’s some old note of him complaining? Now your players know to look for a wizard’s quarters from checking out the stables.

    All of that just from them having horses. A little bit of follow-through can turn a boring map into a living world. It’s great.


  • Oh, well I guess they win then. Deep down they’re probably good people, so we just ignore their bigotry and allow it to proliferate further and continue to make the rest of the world a worse place for people I care about.

    Fuck that. I cut out my family for being bigots. I told them specifically why and I refuse to take their phone calls. You have to let people know that those beliefs are wrong and let them know that there are social consequences for continuing to believe them. America didn’t pass the Civil Rights Act by waiting until people just came around and agreed with them. They said “This is wrong, and now illegal.” and made them deal with the consequences (Kinda. It’s still America and still pretty racist so…)

    Point is, change doesn’t happen by ignoring shitty behavior. This kind of behavior needs to be confronted and shut down every time. EVERY TIME.