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  • flerp@lemm.eeto196@lemmy.blahaj.zonePoorly socialized rule
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    2 months ago

    You’re definitely right that society needs to do a better job with this. Calling men toxic and joking about their inadequacy might make the person speaking feel better about themselves but it’s not going to help society at all because that kind of talk is what pushes more and more boys into the arms of the Tate’s of the world.






  • No it’s not the same logic. Someone in power hitting someone teaches kids that it is acceptable to use physical violence to get your way, this encourages the child to do even more violence. A victim fighting back against their bully is self defence, it is a different situation completely. I support training victimized kids to fight and stand up for themselves, I don’t support allowing adults to hit kids as punitive measures.

    There’s no easy answer to the situation you describe, but the evidence overwhelmingly demonstrates that corporal punishment makes things worse, not better. Self defence against a bully is a completely different situation.






  • It’s different because there might be some people who you always end up downvoting their comments and you don’t even realize it’s the same person because you don’t look at user names and there aren’t really that many prolific commenters here so they will see that you’re always downvoting them and assume malice in a way that they wouldn’t otherwise because they’re not going through your comments, they’re only looking at theirs.

    For example, this comment just a few down:

    I’m mildly curious if the single down vote I get on ~70% of my comments is from like one guy I pissed off at some point. At the same time I don’t care enough to work around the system, so maybe it works?

    They immediately assume that if one person is downvoting them it is malice instead of maybe that one person just disagrees with their comments for other reasons and isn’t even looking at user names.

    Edit: I just noticed you did the same thing in your comment too. There are not that many users here, just because someone is consistently downvoting your comments doesn’t mean they are following you around, there isn’t a lot of content and people who spend time here see a lot of it. Maybe they just disagree with every comment you make that they happen to see and have no idea or care who you are.


  • Money can take away a lot of your problems but it can’t make you enjoy your life. That’s a skill you have to learn that starts with being comfortable with yourself and listening to yourself. A lot of people can’t handle doing that and it’s why they stay so miserable. Money won’t help with that, it only helps with having your most base needs met. She’s miserable because she never put in the effort to learn to not be and so she turns to the internet for an outlet to remove some of her misery but of course it can’t do that and so she becomes more miserable and lashes out more and more just like anyone else regardless of money. True peace comes from within and within she is hollow and vapid.