Which is why the easiest thing to do is just have the discussions. If someone wants to act as if they’re just a regular person bringing up crime statistics about black people or something, just engage in good faith and present your counter. If they’re genuine, you’ve provided a genuine response, if they’re not, you’re still winning because their goal is to either prove you can’t ask certain questions or that people are hiding from the truth. Also, you automatically get an opportunity to influence any 3rd parties simply reading the exchange.
I mean they could add a diff thing, like how AUR helpers do it. It’s not much, but it’s something.