Beehaw is blocking lemmygrad, they’re federated with lemmy.ml which is federated with lemmygrad, though.
I’m a member of the lemmygrad instance and I don’t think I’ve see any content from beehaw, so you should be good over there.
Edit: Okay, I can confirm you cannot see any content from users in a blocked instance. I just looked at this thread from slrpnk.net and you cannot see my comment. And I also just read that you didn’t want to join beehaw. What’s wrong with beehaw?
It is a shame. I was trying to help OP out, but I think they might have blocked me individually, maybe through a mass ban of individuals in a thread they found on lemmygrad. As for the instances that have already blocked us, it’s unlikely they will ever federate with us again.
Perhaps the devs could implement a “soft” ban as an alternative to outright removal from federation. Censoring a comment or thread created by a user from the targeted instance with a confirmation click to view. I’m sure a lot of these QoL features will be added when the devs get through the enormous backlog, which has only been growing larger due to the influx of new users.