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Cake day: November 15th, 2023

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  • So I’m in my mid-50s, and I’ve honestly only come up with genuine lasting interest in my friends’ lives in the last few years.

    I noticed that I’d get together with friends and they’d say “hey, how did your kid’s sportsball tournament go back in July?” What struck me about it is that they cared enough to actually hear what I said, and remember it - not because they have a deep abiding interest in my kid’s life, but because they cared about me and the things that were important to me.

    And I wasn’t repaying the care.

    So I’ve tried to change. When people tell me stuff about their kids or vacation, I make a concerted effort to remember it and remember the significance of it, because the fact that it’s important to the people I care about means that to some degree, I care about it as well.




  • Depends on what you mean “effective.”

    The structure is very similar, and on the surface, it works about the same way. So in that sense, yes.

    The lack of centralization improves on reddit - no authoritarian rule-making, no limitation of content by the laws of a single country, etc. - but also adds flaws. The biggest one is the potential for redundant groups on different servers, but also a concern is the potential for someone taking down their server and leaving the users high and dry. (I don’t know exactly what happens to the content in this case, but that could be another issue.)

    Practically speaking though, it is not a meaningful replacement for reddit because it is lacking content. I browse “all”, and get fewer total posts that I saw on reddit on my 20 or so subscribed subreddits alone.

    Community is the key. Community is what made reddit, and lemmy doesn’t have a developed community. Yet. We can get there, and then discover what other problems with the platform are.





  • Hockey parents are the absolute worst.

    You run into shitty parents in any sport, but hockey attracts the frustrated assholes living vicariously through their poor kids. How many stories per year do we see about brawls or assaults at kids’ games? Too damned many.

    Gymnastics isn’t as violent, but the parents are almost as bad. Usually the actual abuse is directed at their own kids.

    Most ‘fringe’ sports have a strong, supportive community. It’s possible, but the culture of hockey is rooted in toxicity.