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Cake day: September 20th, 2023

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  • I try to keep an open mind and engage in conversation when I can too. Tbh the fallacy I find to be the most irritating (and probably most common) is when the person already presupposes your entire argument and crafts straw men arguments against you. To me, that tells me they’re just unwilling/unable to listen to me and listen to my actual arguments. No use in debating someone who doesn’t even know what they’re debating against.

    Having to keep saying “but that’s not what I said” every time I try and explain myself gets exhausting after awhile lol






  • Yeah we also have friends in our group that have special diet restrictions/health issues they don’t want the while world knowing about where they can’t eat certain foods.

    It’s one thing to ask someone to make certain food, then showing up and not eating any. But it’s likely OP’s guests never asked for all of this. So I don’t really see how OP can be upset that his guests didn’t stuff their faces?

    Sometimes people aren’t hungry. Or they’re on diets. Or have legitimate medical reasons for not eating certain foods. It really doesn’t matter. I never understood this logic of getting personally offended because people didn’t eat something I made. I don’t give a shit, more for me! Or I can donate it/save it for later!




  • So I have a friend that sounds a bit like OP.

    He plans some event and invites a few people (including myself). I said I already had plans, but would try and make it if my other plans ended early.

    Weekend comes around and he prepares a preposterous amount of food for everyone. Like enough to feed a family for an entire month.

    My other plans don’t end up ending early, so I wasn’t able to make it. He then sends me pics of all the food that hadn’t been eaten and does this little guilt trippy dance he always does: “my friends and I were really excited to have you join us, guess I gotta throw all this away now”

    Like bro…I never said I could go in the first place! And even if I was there, there is no WAY I’d be eating all that food lmao.

    I really don’t understand this behavior. It’s like they get a pleasure out of playing the victim constantly.

    Not saying this is you, OP. Just wanted to vent a little bit haha