• TokenBoomer@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    They still care for him. He’s going to jail for his crimes, does his family have to reject him too?

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      1 year ago

      Hey you know how you have that one friend who drugged and raped women? No? Me neither.

      I can’t think of any person in my life that I wouldn’t cut off if I learned they were a rapist.

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        Yeah, you just don’t stay friends with someone if you found that out about them. People that say you should have your friends backs no matter what are just insane.

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      No, but I have to say I’m surprised by the non-family members writing letters of character after he had been convicted of forcible rape. It’s one thing if it’s family I guess, or if the accused had been in the throes of addiction or similar at the time and had changed. But these are people who were working with him at the time he committed these crimes and they’re all testifying about him being such a good example of sobre living and a positive influence. Do they not feel betrayed by him? Do they not believe he did it? It’s strange.

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        1 year ago

        I have to imagine it’s a very difficult thing to cope with; learning something like that about a very close friend. It has to really mess with you. And I can understand the human instinct to want to defend them regardless of your moral standards.

        I personally don’t think this goes to show any moral failing on their part. Or at worst, whatever moral failing may be present is mostly due in part to a natural human reaction to complex emotions better dealt with in therapy. As such, I think these two should be afforded a bit of leeway.

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      Yes, at least I would and did in the same situation, except they were actual family. They’re both POS rape apologists.

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      My family beat and outcast a member who turned out to be a predator. Fuck him, he’s dead now. Didn’t shed a tear.