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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Lyra858 on 2023-07-06 10:43:56+00:00.

TLDR: Boyfriend gifted me a self help book out of the blue and I found it funny.

As the total says my boyfriend (34m) gave me (26f) a self help book, at first I was really polite when he gave it me, told him I really appreciated it etc. but then he noticed me smiling slightly and asked if I found something funny then I started laughing and he took offence at it.

I’m feeling kinda offended that he just sprung this on me out of nowhere without talking to me about it. I also found it funny that no one had ever gifted me a self help book before, feels a bit like a back handed gift.

He thinks I have depression, and I have struggled with mental health in the past. But I think I have linked my depressive episodes with my cycle as it happens in the pms stage, which I’ve read up on and seems like lots of other women suffer with it too.

Now he’s mad at me that I found it funny but I’m feeling kinda offended. I know the thought behind it but I feel there’s better ways to go about getting someone help than just coming up to them randomly and giving them a self help book.