How has it been for you? Do you get FOMO feeling sometimes?

I use Reddit less and less but haven’t fully quit yet. Always have this odd feeling of FOMO regards content.

Not only that, some subreddits haven’t migrated to any other platform unfortunately. Or they have but the content is very little compared to Reddits content.

Note - wasn’t sure where to post this. So if this wasn’t the right place, apologies!

The issue I have with Reddit - it’s full of hateful people and most content is just bots karma farming.

EDIT: Thanks for all the responses!

EDIT 2: Thanks for the ones that mentioned RSS-Feed. Just got it and it’s amazing. Still manage to only follow the subreddits that I like without crapads.

  • TJDetweiler@lemmy.ca
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    Fully left Reddit. Hate that they killed Sync so bounced. Don’t miss it at all.

    The flip side is Lemmy is meh. Every damn post is Linux shilling. We get it. Lemmy users like Linux. At least Sync works on this site.

    Ultimately, I guess I just don’t care about either site. I just want something to mindlessly browse for a few minutes every day when I’m shitting, and Lemmy is fine.

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      It’s not true that every post is Linux chilling.

      Half are “piracy good” and “google is so evil for having ads”.

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          Well this is looking like a slippery slope. Next comment is just going to be something like “I actually kind of like the far right.”

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            After reading your comment I had to fight an almost overwhelming urge to buy a Nazi flag and rent out my house for the simple pleasure of screwing over renters. That’s how fast it happens.

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            I always find it funny when people use the phrase slippery slope, not realizing that it is literally a logical fallacy.

            The far right can get bent for what it’s worth, but most of the issues people attribute to capitalism are very far from exclusive to capitalism. No matter what socioeconomic framework you go with, you’re probably still going to need to go to work, deal with shitty bosses, insane bureaucracies, mid life crises, not having the motivation to read that book you bought 3 years ago, your furnace dying in the middle of winter, etc.

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              Shitty bosses are probably less likely if your boss is ultimately democratically accountable to you and not to the some alien legal party that is your employer

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                Democratically elected/accountable doesn’t necessarily beget quality. See: politicians.

                Point is, people act like moving away from capitalism would suddenly fix all life’s ails. Sure, it would probably fix some stuff, it would probably cause some problems capitalism doesn’t too. It’s much more effective to focus on tackling specifically scoped issues rather than whinging about capitalism and proposing no solutions other than tearing down the entire system and hoping whatever rises from the ashes is better.

                To make some very specific points, I believe that if we simply fixed outrageous housing and healthcare costs, the overwhelming majority of domestic complaints about the USA would be solved. No need to ditch capitalism to fix those problems.

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                  If given a choice between democratically elected politicians and unaccountable dictators and autocrats, I would choose politicians.

                  By capitalism, I mean specific institutions. I have specific solutions in mind such as recognizing the inalienable right to workplace democracy, and common ownership of land, natural resources, and the means of production.

                  Land’s inelastic supply, which can only be solved by socializing it, plays a role in housing costs.

                  Work issues remain unsolved by those two

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          Damn, how could I. In that same line though there is the variant about how anything non free open source is shit, and that copyrights shouldn’t exist.

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      On the contrary, there are more posts here that shill for MS too, than on Reddit. But that’s probably because of too much Linux.

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    FOMO is a silly and manipulative phenomenon, I encourage you to try to figure out how you can break it. I left the day Apollo stopped working

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    I left reddit totally when I made my account here. Lemmy has been great, but it’s not a full replacement per se. Most often I’ve just decided I can live without the niche reddit content. Lemmy has plenty of its own content, and it’s enough for me to fill that “hole”.

    As I’m sure many are aware, reddit has addictive qualities that aren’t always serving your best interest. Just because there’s a subreddit for r/breadstapledtotrees doesn’t mean you should dedicate time out of your day to look at it. All the important discussions to me have mostly moved over here, and all the people who are posting and commenting on Lemmy have a much much higher level of aptitude on these topics than redditors (I like that you can go into a random meme community on Lemmy and pick a fight about filesystems).

    We still need to create and fill a lot of niche communities here, but Rome wasn’t built in a day and we’re making great progress here in just a few months. Lemmy feels viable and sustainable and I think we’re past the hard part of gaining critical mass and making daily Lemmy use a habit. My call-to-action would be to stop searching reddit for answers to things and start posting those questions on Lemmy. There are so many smart people here waiting to infodump their experience onto you.

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      This comment seems very related to the specific content you are looking for. Lemmy is a good place for tech information but that’s about it. Cooking, home improvement, personal finance, DIY, crafting etc don’t have homes on here with many active users, and especially not the amount of knowledgeable users that were on Reddit.

      This all started because of an API change, so it would make sense that the predominant amount of users who migrated are more tech savvy.

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        The second best time to create activity is now. I’m actually very fluent in US-based personal finance but no one has posted asking for help. I think there are a lot of communities that have a lot of subscribers and no activity - just waiting for someone that needs help.

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          I guess personal finance was a bad example; in the hour since I made my comment two people have replied about that but no one has really mentioned hobby style communities (the others i mentioned) which leads into the second main issue I see which is that Lemmy’s userbase is not a casual one.

          Almost everyone one here can tell you what an API means, where as the vast majority of people who are doing Google searches with Reddit at the end probably can’t/don’t care about it. That’s leads to an over representation of the ‘smart communities’ like Linux, Technology and Personal Finance. Since there are many people migrating to Lemmy that are already interested in those topics, the expertise is a lot higher.

          Meanwhile, I don’t think a lot of people who would frequent Reddit for cooking advice, home improvement questions mechanical questions and other topics like those made the switch so easily. And no matter how many times you post in this subs, it’s not going to bring people from Reddit who didn’t want to leave in the first place.

          Plus, when it comes to people asking questions related to things they need to do in real life, they need an answer. I made a bunch of posts on some communities here about an issue in a new rental house and got no comments on it at all. I’m all for trying to get Lemmy bigger but I can’t do that at the expense of the things I need to do in my day to day life.

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            That’s fair - obviously that will need time to grow but I’m not sure what we can do to foster it in the meantime. My personal guess is that getting users onto Lemmy through any means possible will help in all community directions. If Lemmy had 1 million users that were only here because of the technology community, you can count on a chunk of them being good at DIY or cooking also. The more humans that we have here, the more collective experience that we have as a whole.

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    I miss it. It makes me angry, and a little sad, and definitely lonely. I miss the community and the friends I had (which accounted for too much of my social interaction). But I still feel like it was the right move.

    It is a toxic place in many ways, but there are communities there that are hard to replace. I ignored much of what was happening for far too long, and a lot of my pain now comes from a failure to deal with that reality when I should have done

    Instead I moved with the masses, at least in theory. I hate that it was necessary, but I would do it again.

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    I went from maybe 1 - 2 hours of reddit use per day for years to 0 the day 3rd party clients were turned off.

    I don’t feel fomo, but I only use lemmy maybe 15 - 30 minutes per day on average, and I am happy about that

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    Life’s been nice here. It was uncomfortable losing all the stuff I’d subbed, the content was slim when I first switched… But I knew it would be.

    You adjust, you find new things to enjoy around here even when you lose things that as yet have no replacement from Reddit.

    But I’m serious about the need for privacy and escaping ads. I have no regrets.

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    Honestly, I haven’t missed it. I’m no longer doom-scrolling an eternal screen of karma-farming bullshit.

    I took part in the blackout protest and tried Lemmy at the same time. When Reddit proved they didn’t give a shit, I went back long enough to scrub my post and comment history, before deleting my ~15yo account entirely. Sure, they could probably recover the data, but why would they?

    I use Pihole for DNS and a private searx-ng instance for web search, so I just block all Reddit domains in DNS and search results, and it’s genuinely like it doesn’t exist for me any more.

    Also, the pace on Lemmy is much nicer, IMHO. I find a lot of days I only look at Lemmy a couple of times, and very quickly move on if there’s no posts of interest to me.

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    For me it was great. I’ve been trying to leave that shithole for years; Lemmy got enough content quantity and diversity to keep me entertained.

    I do miss a few niche subs; mostly r/conlangs, game-specific subs, and a few subs for anime/manga/LN series. But I don’t really feel missing out.

    I also miss behaving like a shit-flinging monkey and chimping out. I don’t do this here in Lemmy, but I did it all the time in Reddit. I guess that I contributed to what you call “hateful people”? Perhaps not, you don’t look like the sort of user that I’d chew on.

    The issue I have with Reddit - it’s full of hateful people and most content is just bots karma farming.

    My issue with Reddit is also the userbase. But it’s on another level: the local culture of Reddit encourages braindeadness, disingenuousness, entitlement, and circlejerking.

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      the local culture of Reddit encourages braindeadness, disingenuousness, entitlement, and circlejerking

      I feel like I see more of that here, at least because there are no active replacements yet for the niche subreddits I used to participate in which were actually moderated to remove low-effort comments. I would never have posted in /r/politics if I wanted to discuss a controversial topic, but here I feel like that’s the only option.

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        That’s a good counterpoint - in Reddit, large subs often work as containment cages for the morons; Lemmy is simply not large enough to have this distinction yet. And perhaps the topic also has some influence, I feel like people in Lemmy are emotionally more strongly attached to their political views than in Reddit, this is not bad per se but people often get irrational when they’re emotionally attached to a subject.

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          Yeah, Reddit users will call you a transphobic slur and move on. Lemmy users will harass you for months for being trans. cough hexbear

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      issues

      i find paragraph comments with a tone that sounds like garbage

      often found in arguments

      they agree with people who don’t care about things that don’t affect them

      reasonable comments are downvoted when they’re unpopular

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        not caring about things that don’t affect you is more acceptable there

        This, too. So much this.

        In Reddit you’re either “waaah you evil!!11one” or you have strong opinions about every fucking thing. And what a coincidence - those strong opinions happen to coincide with the ones of most other subreddit users! It also pisses me off.

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      Aside from legaladvice and MilitaryStories, I don’t think there’s anything I really miss about it.

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    I totally quit reddit and I miss it. I miss it so much, in fact, that I tried to go on there like nothing ever happened- but it sucks so bad that I still missed Reddit, even when I was literally using it. It’s just terrible now. Lemmy is mad decent, and I really like how it isn’t run for profit. Still a little janky in some regards, and it’s definitely skewed toward certain demographics, but it’s definitely my favorite social platform.

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    I miss some of the niche communities but I’m less addicted to social media these days so it seems like a step in the right direction

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    TBH it feels like I’m in high school now and going to Reddit is like visiting the middle school.

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      I was lurking for a comment like this. You’ve described my feeling exactly. Lemmy feels a bit more mature. I went cold turkey for reddit and I’m not going back. Btw, I use Connect app and really live it. I don’t seem to have some of the technical issues that I see others talk about with Lemmy

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    The issue I have with Reddit - it’s full of hateful people

    I left two or three years before the big wave, for precisely this reason. It really is a toxic culture – it seeps into your brain that you cannot say something mildly wrong or controversial without the mob snowballing your comment to death.
    No one affords others any goodwill, because not doing so makes their own number go up.

    I was on Mastodon for quite a while, because Lemmy wasn’t a thing yet. And over there, you can only make people’s numbers go up and the culture reflects that.
    I do feel like the Lemmy model works better for unearthing content (Mastodon is more about people), but I can’t help but feel like there ought to be a path in the middle.

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      it seeps into your brain that you cannot say something mildly wrong or controversial without the mob snowballing your comment to death.

      It wasn’t like that over here a few months ago, but unfortunately that’s starting to change.

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        From my view the more of Reddit that comes here the farther right we go. My first experiences on Lemmy were somewhat off-putting because it was so far left I couldn’t relate, like literally just ignorant anarcho-commie shit that doesn’t have any basis in reality. Now I’m seeing more and more centrist and far-right-too-comfortable-with-fascism shit that I also can’t relate to and feel repulsion from. Not sure what the perfect balance would be, but I think there was a day or so there where it might have existed on Lemmy.

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          Huge swathes of Lemmy are deeply transphobic. I’ve never seen such bullshit on Reddit. I agree there are more communists, and that’s great, but unfortunately there are a lot of politically engaged and deeply ignorant people running large instances.

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        Yeah, that big wave brought a lot of that culture over here and it might be self-sustaining…

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    Id been there 16 years, fuck em. Cold turkey and haven’t been back. Making new habits is hard, take the help you get is my advice and make a better habit. I’ve been programming more and uh uh refining my porn consumption lol

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    18 year reddit veteran.

    I haven’t contributed or actively browsed Reddit since moving to Lemmy. Three visits from a google search for a specific problem.

    I don’t get FOMO - too long in the tooth for that, but I do miss the center ground politically on Lemmy, which despite my best attempt of locating I haven’t found here. I sometimes feel like I’m the only one to frown at both nazis and tankies here.